Imposing Your Niceness On Other People

I’m waiting at a corner in a residential neighborhood to turn left to go to work. To my right, a car was coming and I was waiting for them to go so that I could make a left turn. They were turning left and stopped briefly for what I assumed was oncoming traffic. After a while, I looked over in the other direction and no one was coming. I realized they were waiting for me to go.

This is what irks me about these type of exchanges. I’m now waiting longer than I would have if she would have just turned initially. There’s only two reasons why people do this: some kind of driving anxiety and imposing their niceness on other people.

So I stayed where I was. I continued looking off in the other direction as if I didn’t know what was going on. She began honking her horn. I thought to myself,”Wow, really?” More honking. Then, finally, she goes and as she’s passing my car, she looks over at me, shaking her head in condescension.

Recently, this same thing happened again. This time, I was exiting a residential neighborhood to a relatively fast-moving street (40+mph) This street can be difficult to turn out onto because of the faster traffic and parked cars limit visibility. I was turning left again and a car was coming from my right. I checked the traffic to my left and as soon as this car went, I was going to go. They came to a complete stop, so, bewildered, I looked over to see what traffic was coming from my left. There was nothing. A friend of mine was with me and told me to go because they were stopping to let me pass. I refused again. This wasn’t nearly as dramatic as the previous encounter and they turned soon without fanfare, but as I turned left, I made a comment like,”What a moron.”  The person in the car with me was like,”They’re just being nice!”

No. It’s not nice. It’s stupidity. It’s imposing your niceness on other people. Every time someone does this, I imagine them screaming at me,”I’M A NICE PERSON! GO! GO! LET ME HELP YOU!”

In both situations, I didn’t require any help. I just needed them to go. That was the only interaction I required from them and they couldn’t even do that right. I won’t even go into situations where people do this at the expense of the traffic behind them or create dangerous situations where they stop in one lane and the traffic in the next lane continues.

If you do this, just stop. You’re not being nice. You’re just being a nice asshole.